Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Review: What Did I Do Wrong by Liz Pryor
Title: What Did I Do Wrong?: What to Do When You Don't Know Why the Friendship is Over by Liz Pryor
Publisher: Free Press
Published: May 17, 2011
Friendships between women are the thing of lore: bosom buddies, summer sisters, sisterhood of the traveling pants, and so forth. But what happens when the fun is over?
There are tons of books of that celebrate the greatness of the bond between two women, but none about how to fix the friendship once it starts going south. It's relatively easy to find books or societal validation of the heartbreak caused by the end of a relationship, but none specifically about female friendships. If your spouse/lover/partner walked out on you, everyone would understand your need for a grieving period, why should a breakup with your bff be any different? Liz Pryor set out to find out the reasons for the failure of friendships and ways to fix or end them in a way that gives both parties closure.
The book is full of tips on how to recuperate from being dumped by your bff. There are also several chapters about how to dump bffs, particularly with crazy, emotional, or otherwise unpredictable people. She has a couple situations where the friendship doesn't end, it just changes. With a little help from her husband, she even gets reunited with one of her own former bffs.
This is a great book from someone that just lost a friendship and is trying to come to terms with the loss. Believe me there are some stories in the book that are so petty or so terrible, you will definitely feel better or get some guidance about your situation. She encourages letter writing, which isn't always a good thing. Know yourself: if you're scared you're coming across like a stalker, you probably are being stalkerish. Also watch those emails and voicemails. The last friendship explosion I had resulted in some really crazy emails and voicemails. If your friend, sends you a letter, open it. You do not want to regret what could have been. The main thing I got is to treat your friendships like all the other major relationships in your life. Don't negate the value of the friendship because it is a platonic, female friendship.
* This book was provided by the publisher Free Press in exchange for my honest opinion. *